Parenting: Am I doing it Wrong?

A long time ago before I started this blog, like years ago, I followed a blogger named Life with Levi.

I remember one of her post being about being a Crappy Parent. Several of us then wrote our own blog post about being a Crappy Parent and shared them. Here lately, I can’t seem to get those post off my mind.

This world is full of judge mental people. And I am so over it.

I always grew up thinking how when I had kids I want to have a very open relationship with them. I want them to feel like they can come to us as parents and talk to us about anything they need to. I also feel like as a parent it is MY job to determine what I allow my child to do, play, watch and participate in.

For the most part we allow our son to watch things most 9 years olds aren’t allowed to watch.

For example:

  • Glee- He has been watching this with us since it first aired on TV. May 19, 2009. Do you know how old he was? 2 years old! Do you think he knew what the heck was actually going on on that show? No! Did he understand the topics that were being played out in front of him? NO! Did he enjoy the music being played and sung? HECK YES! That was what mattered to him. The music. He enjoyed it. So we let him watch it. As he got older, he became more aware. You know what he did? He asked questions and as his parents WE ANSWERED THEM TRUTHFULLY and DISCUSSED the situations with our child.
  • Rent- Yep, My son has seen Rent the Movie version of the Broadway show. And you know what? HE FREAKING LOVES IT!  Again, the music pulls him in. This movie hasn’t brought up the questions yet that I am waiting for. Since AIDS is a big part of the movie I have expected questions on that topic. But, they haven’t come. Yet. I am sure one day he will ask what it is and how it effects them. But for today, he loves the music.
  • Almost all Super Hero movies. I am not talking cartoons. Although, yeah he will watch those some. I am talking Avengers, All the Thor movies, IronMan movies, SpiderMan, Captain America. I have had people ask me, Why? There is language in those movies. Why let him hear that? You know what? My kid hears bad language more from other adults in food places or the store than he does those movies. Just the other night we were sitting in Canes eating dinner and a group of adult males were sitting behind him. The “F” word was dropped more times than we would of liked. Do you think it is better for your child to hear those words elsewhere and use them? Or to hear them with you, talk about how they are being used, and explain and discuss why we should not use those words. My son knows the words are “bad” and knows as a child he isn’t supposed to use them and that is enough for me.

Y’all this is just an example of the TV/Movies he watches or has watched.

I get questioned anytime someone finds out something he is allowed to watch that their kids are not allowed to watch.

A lot of it goes to “Are you a Christian?”

Yes we are. My son is getting baptized October 29th, 2016. A little over a week away. We are VERY active in our church, and church events. My son goes to church and class every weekend and we take him to Awanas on Sunday evenings. During the Summer he participates in VBS and Church Camp. We pray with every meal at home or in public. We talk to our son about the importance of trusting Jesus as our Lord and Savior.

“How can you allow him to watch such shows?”

Because what else is there to watch? TV is crap these days with a few somewhat decent shows here and there. Big Bang Theory is one of our favorites… say what? YES MY SON KNOWS THE BIG BANG THEORY IS FALSE AND ISN”T OUR BELIEF. Doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy a good laugh on TV.

Percy Jackson. How many know who and what I am talking about? Percy Jackson and The Lightening Thief. Percy Jackson and The Sea of Monsters. Percy Jackson and The Olympians. There are a ton more. I have gotten crap for letting my son watch these movies. Why? Because they have other Gods in them. Yes, some people believe that the Ancient Greek Gods existed. We don’t. So we use this movie to explain to our son that while some people may believe it, it is not our belief and therefor just another made up movie that some big director and actors got a whole lot of money to make!

It is not just those.

  • Harry Potter- all of them.
  • Wicked
  • Twilight-again, all of them
  • Disney Channel-Because yes even it can have issues.

As a Christian, if we took away all the shows that were against what we believe in and threw them out, what would we be left with? Hardly anything.

As a Christian though, I am really sick and tired of OTHER CHRISTIANS being the most judge mental people I have ever met.

I am also the parent who lets her son play video games, computer games and card games. Including:

  • Minecraft- on all devices.
  • Disney Infinity
  • Pokemon

Again, those are just a few.

I was just recently informed that Pokemon was a huge NO for Christians because it is demonic. What? Yes, that is what I was told. Pokemon has been out since I was a kid, if not longer. I remember when kids would bring their cards to school and trade them during recess. I know there is also some kind of actual game involved, but really and truthfully I have no clue and wasn’t even into it until Pokemon Go and I even had to recently delete that app because it kept messing up.

BUT, back to being demonic…

I learned a word today I have never heard: occultic ( What is funny is my auto correction is telling me that is not a word that is spelt correctly… )

So we have this made up word that basically means: Knowledge of the Hidden. Sounds spooky right? ( you have to know I have rolled my eyes several times.)

So according to an article I read online, Pokemon falls under the category of Occultic. Pokemon also teaches Evolution, Spells (Magic! The Horror!), and Pokemon characters are basically monsters…

Minecraft is demonic because you know it has Zombies and time stops and waits for you to return, or some crap like that.

You know what I see when my kid plays either of those games.

  • He is learning skills. In Pokemon it could be a trade. Negotiation skills. Socialization skills. How to handle himself in a situation where if he needs to disagree or agree with someone he will know how to handle himself.
  • In Minecraft he is learning to build things and use his imagination. He is learning to code and work with others.

I am not going to take those things away from my child because someone else does not approve.

What I am going to do, is teach my child culture. What is wrong and right. I am also going to teach him to be kind to others and to treat others the way that he would want to be treated. I am going to teach hm to love everyone and to help out in the world.

Because those are important to me and our family.

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edit: I started this two weeks ago. I had to stop because it was upsetting me so much to even write this. Tonight I was able to calmly sit down and finish it.